Posted by sleepygirl2 on April 17, 2011, at 22:57:12
In reply to Re: Anyone with social anxiety » sleepygirl2, posted by wittgensteinz on April 17, 2011, at 16:05:36
> "it is all my fault, I'm inferior, no one could like me"
>
> Yes... I could have written that about myself.
> Also what you said about perfectionism - I live in terror of failing/messing up and each time I do I ruminate over it for ages. It makes life so difficult!it does, doesn't it?, makes it hard to take a step
> While I know my thinking is faulty and I know there is nothing really that makes me unlikeable, it's hard to shift that belief the there's something fundamentally wrong with me. I just can't see how CBT would help change that - isn't it's basis on convincing yourself (training yourself) to think differently about yourself? Restructuring your beliefs? It just seems too superficial to reach those beliefs that are so firm and fixed and deep rooted - welded to the soul, so to speak.yeah, it feels pretty damn hard wired
I'm not in CBT, it's something I'm reviewing though. If I can find something helpful, then I'll try to hold on to it. I've got to get a handle on my anxiety.
My ability to scrutinize my thoughts in the past (pre-therapy) allowed me to function to some degree, but the practice was all consuming.
I'm in psychodynamic therapy and it has helped me a great deal. I think change happens over time, in the practice of relating. I'm much better at a lot of it. I have a bunch of good friends, my dear husband.
The fear though....sigh
it's just so hard to get rid of
It feels like my nervous system is just so ultra sensitive.> I'm trying the 're-parenting' route. I'm not sure my therapist has succeeded yet. I trust him quite a bit, that's something at least but still ask him at least 2 or 3 times a month "are you sure you don't hate me?".
oh, I still do some version of that pretty frequently. It makes me sad really, that I default to that.
take care witti :-)
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