Posted by pegasus on April 1, 2011, at 10:35:55
In reply to Is it OK?, posted by Annabelle Smith on April 1, 2011, at 1:30:53
Yeah, it's OK.
What you're describing sounds like the attachment to our Ts that we often talk about here. I'm guessing there was something wounded about your early attachment to caregivers, and so you developmentally *need* to attach like this some someone reliable and stable, in order to finish developing a solid sense of yourself that will eventually fill that void inside you. It's just how humans work.
No one questions it when it's between a mom and child, because that's a universal experience. But think about how utterly dependent children are on their parents, not only for food and shelter, etc. but for psychological well being. W
When it's an adult person and their T . . . well that's more unusual in our society, and a lot of people don't get it. But it doesn't mean that it's wrong. From my perspective, it might be exactly what you need. As long as your T is going to be able to hold it for you, and provide what you are needing from him.
- P
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