Posted by Solstice on February 24, 2011, at 7:23:14
In reply to Re: I think the weather in h*ll must be chilly » Solstice, posted by Dinah on February 23, 2011, at 19:10:20
> My therapist has been pretty good at listening to my concerns and (eventually) correcting them. He hasn't even been falling asleep lately as he's been losing a fair amount of weight and exercising more. My biggest issue with *him* at the moment is that he's a bit rah-rah with the diet and exercise topic. Speaking with the zeal of the newly converted. Zeal never works well with me...
I hate that kind of zeal.. or maybe I just hate the know-it-all pushiness it's soaked in if it's directed at me.
> What has been his response to your concerns?Apology.. but with excuses. The excuses cut to the core.
> Have you frankly told him that while these things may be less than ideal at all times,:) yeah.. and I got counter-responses pointing out how 'accomodating' T is of me at times. Like I'm supposed to overlook loosey-goosey professional standards that undermine the environment I need.. since at times T provides latitude when its therapeutic to do so.
> they can be very damaging occasionally?This will probably come up this evening. I vascillate between feeling deeply hurt.. to feeling angry as a bull. I don't know whether to cry or yell. It makes me so angry that I'm even having to deal with it.. especially at a time when life itself has been destabilizing. I didn't need therapy to add to it.
> And that this is a time for him to put his therapist hat on a bit more firmly?We actually had that conversation a few times regarding apt. times being moved. I didn't make the connection.. it was T who pointed out that the apt times being flexible might have been behind whatever I was messed up over at the time.
It's just gonna make me angry to hear any more excuses for what is inexcuseable. I'll tell you the one I REALLY hate. "I can guarantee you that I will disappoint you again." I think I'm generally very accommodating of occasional small stuff. But when the ocassional small stuff becomes the rule, that kind of comment sounds like T is just setting it up to have all the latitude in the world to not mind the store. It just makes me angry.. and I don't want to have to deal with it right now.
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