Posted by Willful on November 6, 2010, at 23:06:48
In reply to Re: need support » Emily Elizabeth, posted by jane d on November 6, 2010, at 19:28:36
I was wondering if there was any hint or discussion of this before your T made this rather abrupt and I would expect shocking announcement. I can't imagine a T doing that to someone-- unless there had been a lot of friciion and some warning or indication that cutting down needed to be considered.
In fact, I think presenting it as a fait accompli, rather than an issue to be discussed and resolved before any final decision is made is just wrong. I've got to wonder, as others have, about countertransference-- and I would question the judgment and commitment of any T who would arbitrarily impose that sort of reduction-- or really any significant long=term reworking of the relationship.
I totally understand your not wanting to go to your appointment. I'm sorry-- I haven't followed anything about your relationship with her-- but I personally would find that tantamount to putting me in an impossible situation. I believe that the relationship is mutual, with a lot of responsibility for the T, once the relationship has progressed, to handle negative or discouraged feelings, Of course, that's me-- I don't mean to substitute my reaction for yours.
But I wanted to ask, if there was a lot of friction and the common sense that the relationship was breaking down, for a while. Otherwise I can't imagine a T acting so radically and without your being part of the process prior to the decision.
I also am very sorry that happened-- and of course am a bit taken aback that a T would do that-- I hope you can resolve it with her or with another T in a way that is constructive for you.
Willful
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