Posted by obsidian on November 6, 2010, at 17:36:40
In reply to need support, posted by Emily Elizabeth on November 6, 2010, at 16:12:39
> So on Wednesday my T (of 3 yrs) informed me that she is going to reduce the frequency of my sessions to once per month. Previously I had been seeing her 2x/week. She says this is because I am "not ready to change." This is mostly with regard to my unhealthy relationship with my mother.
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> I am soooo hurt. I mean what kind of loser am I that I can't even pay someone to listen to my problems? I feel like I have burned her out. And I feel like w/o her I have so little support and things are never going to change.
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> And I feel ashamed. Like I am a worthless failure. Part of me never wants to face her again. We are supposed to go to the 1x/month plan gradually over the next few months, so I am going to see her again on Monday. I want to cancel, but I know I really should process things. But I feel like I can't (or don't want to) trust her.
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> Anyone have words of wisdom? I feel hopeless.
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> Best,
> EEwell I can understand feeling like you don't want to trust her, and feeling hurt and feeling angry
I'm sorry EE
((((you)))))I'm not sure I can offer any words of wisdom...because my initial reaction is to be angry at your t.
2x a week to one time a month??
perhaps a solution will come
in the mean time you are NOT a "loser" and you are NOT a "failure"
I would guess that that one issue has not been the only thing you've been working on in therapy.
Your mother doesn't physically come to therapy with you, because she's not the one who should be center stage. Taking care of yourself however, is one of most important things.
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