Posted by Dinah on October 5, 2010, at 16:31:00
In reply to Re: Maybe it's not such a good idea.... » Dinah, posted by twinleaf on October 4, 2010, at 18:13:09
I can't believe I'm about to say this.
Relationships change whether we want them to or not. There have been changes in our relationship, more of a shifting to more equality. Part of that may be *gasp* my growing up. And part of it may be some disclosures about himself that he maybe oughtn't have made, and that have me seeing him differently. I don't know. Certainly the more you know about the other person, the harder it is to hold onto transference. Thus the blank slate.
I think it probably could be repaired. It probably depends on me to do the repairing, because it always did. It was always me who cared enough to fight to relationship. He cared enough to be involved, but not enough to initiate it.
I'm not convinced that it should be repaired or that I should invest the energy.
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