Posted by Daisym on September 14, 2010, at 22:50:59
In reply to update and some thoughts on the process (long), posted by pegasus on September 10, 2010, at 8:50:15
I think the whole process was really interesting. And it made me think about what I know now, after years in therapy, and what I would looked for. When I started, I was in such bad shape that my friends dragged me into therapy. I didn't interview. I met the therapists they were recommending one at a time, expecting to work with them and just basically fled from the first two. My own therapist was the third one and I told myself no matter what I would stick it out at least a few weeks. But his way of starting therapy is that you spend a few weeks together, talking about why therapy might be useful and then decide if you want to work together. He tells me he was really surprised when I said yes because he felt like I was going to run from the process (wise man). So I think what other people think you need may not be what you actually need.
If I had to find a new therapist (God forbid) I think I would look for a woman, just because I've worked so long with a man. But maybe not - might be the orientation, as you say, instead of the gender. And the office environment would be really important to me too. I need to feel safe and secure - and disorganization makes me crazy. I'd spend the whole session wanting to clean it up. :)
Thanks for sharing. Good luck!
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