Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2010, at 11:39:17
In reply to Re: T #6 » vwoolf, posted by emmanuel98 on September 8, 2010, at 19:21:52
I suppose it's true that a client can come far with any skilled therapist with whom they have a good relationship.
But I'm not sure they'd come far in the same direction. Therapists have beliefs and styles that are bound to guide the direction of therapy. Many of my gains in therapy have been about who my therapist is. He's a phlegmatic and easy going guy (at least he is in the therapy room) who is able to get along well with difficult people. He's really good at identifying threads in interpersonal relationships. He calms me, then he helped me learn to calm myself. His sensible approach helped me to learn to think more sensibly and not let my thoughts get twisted up in obsessional loops.
I've seen other therapists who would not have been likely to help me grow in the same direction, though they might have helped me grow (if I had liked them better).
I'm guessing it's possible that the therapist who is best for a client in one stage of growth might be less good in another.
Or as I tell my therapist, he's not a washing machine. I can't move to the next one if he's out of order.
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