Posted by helana on July 4, 2010, at 13:37:21
In reply to Re: please be civil » Dr. Bob, posted by violette on July 4, 2010, at 12:51:44
Hi Verloren,
I know I haven't posted in awhile. I was wondering about the comment your T made, "we'll have to remember the boundaries since I am not your parent"...do you think it's a possibility that what she meant was that your parents didn't keep proper boundaries and that's why 'we' have to remember them because she wants to keep proper boundaries unlike your parents. Not that she was pointing out that she wasn't your mother but that she doesn't ACT like your mother/father (whoever didn't have boundaries). I also was wondering if it is possible that you don't always see when you may be crossing boundaries if your parent(s) didn't have good boundaries. What is always on your mind are the ways not to cross boundaries that you have been brought up with. So maybe what you consider boundary crossing isn't to her and what is boundary crossing in any parental relationship isn't to you? These obviously are just thoughts...I have asked these same questions in my therapy. Maybe I'm projecting here or maybe we have similar issues. Either way, talk to her about how you feel and discuss all of what you've messaged and it will lead to greater insight, i'm sure.
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