Posted by deerock on June 15, 2010, at 10:53:37
In reply to Re: terminated with T and unravelling » deerock, posted by violette on June 14, 2010, at 19:32:41
hi violette, i think you are picking up on some valid points. i do believe there is some unfinished business with my T.
however, my concern is the same now as it was when i was in therapy with her. one of the things that lead me to terminate with her has to do with a consult i recieved from another therapist. both this other therapist and myself have the same concerns around me being in psychoanalysis with my current T.
the concern is that i will uncover insights and truths about myself and my life and while i am waiting for these insights to help me change, i will keep making the same mistakes and not taking care of myself all the while, waiting for the therapy to work. and while i have waited 3+ years for it to work and have made many decisions while in therapy that were not helpful to me, the therapy never started to work in the sense that i made different choices. the person i saw for a consult told me that i am better off taking control of my own life, having a CBT therapist and go back to that T for analysis once i have my life together.
the problem and the reason i feel hopeless is because i cant get my life together on my own and therapy with that T was not helping me get my life together, it was only giving me insight which didnt make much of a difference.
so im not sure that going back to finish whatever business we started is going to help. im certainly not against it, id be willing to do anything but it feels like its not the answer.
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