Posted by shelbyfude on May 25, 2010, at 12:59:37
I have been seeing my therapist for over 11 years now. Many times before I have tried to stop seeing her by explaining I would like to try out my life on my own and every time she comes back with reasons I need to /should continue our sessions. Every time, I get sucked back in thinking I am not ready...she would know when I am ready....I can't make it without her..etc. Now the reason she is saying I should continue seeing her weekly is I am going through a divorce and need her support/guidance. She doesn't say it like that but that is how I hear it. I even told her I cannot come anymore because financially I can't afford it since I am now on my own. Still, she tells me we can work something out payment wise. In the past, she told me I might get more out of therapy if I went twice a week. I did that hating every minute of it and it caused me so much stress because of the wear and tear on my car, not being able to really plan going somewhere. When I wanted to stop goign twice a week, she would convince me I needed to see her that often. I finally had to just say, I am going once a week only and that was it. It did work. Why can't I say no and mean it?! This last time she convinced me that I still have trouble relating to her in that I don't feel comfortable enough to be able to lay down on the couch when we have our sessions. Any words of advice? It has been 11 years and many of my break throughs have occurred because I discovered them myself.
Thanks!
poster:shelbyfude
thread:948804
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