Posted by Daisym on May 2, 2010, at 21:31:57
In reply to Re: I don't understand what I'm feeling, posted by BayLeaf on May 1, 2010, at 17:38:39
I think that is part of the worry - that I've become "addicted" to the intensity - that I need the depth of conversation to feel connected. And this would not be a good thing because no relationship can sustain that - nor do I want the trauma to have that much power.
I sometimes think that therapy spoils you in general for "small talk" - we lose the ability to do it or to want to do it. Would this be the kind of thing I'd talk about with him outside of therapy? maybe - but i think for him it was more the surprise of not knowing something and not really the subject. And perhaps, as you said, he wasn't so careful, didn't think he needed to be.
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