Posted by TherapyGirl on April 29, 2010, at 21:04:14
In reply to I don't understand what I'm feeling, posted by Daisym on April 29, 2010, at 20:39:24
I'm so sorry, Daisy. I hate being in that place myself and I hate reading that you're there, too. Ultimately, I suspect you will have to figure out exactly what's going on here -- the rest of us may have guesses, but that's all they are. So having said that, here are mine:
You are so used to feeling connected to him over the trauma that somehow you don't feel that same connection when you're talking about non-trauma things. That does NOT make you a drama queen. I think it just means that you are able to share your secrets with him in a way that you can't with others because of that connection. It seems normal to me that it would be difficult to feel connected if you're talking about lighter things.
The other thing I'm wondering is if you feel like he pulled away from you by going "lighter." I know you've worried before that the pain and trauma are too much for him. Perhaps in some corner of your mind this is "proof?"
Again, those are just guesses. I'll be interested in hearing what you figure out, or maybe what you figure out with your T. And I could feel the connection between you two in your post, even on the lighter subjects. I think it's wonderful that he wants to know ALL of you, not just one part of you.
(((((((((Daisy))))))))))
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