Posted by MysticKangaroo on January 8, 2010, at 16:02:55
In reply to Re: egocentric stage, posted by Sigismund on January 8, 2010, at 12:27:21
Why would you want to offer yourself to be hurt? Vulnerable I can understand. Being open to what the other person is offering.
In my head saying "You can hurt me" means that in some way I am still in control of the situation ~ if only in my own head. If I wasn't giving you permission then this wouldn't/couldn't be happening. It taps into my sense of blame and guilt for being hurt. Makes it all about ME... (a favourite topic of mine)
I think if I offered my T permission to hurt me she would say that is not what therapy is about. and who taught you that hurting you was the way of being with another person? My previous T was a robust man who would have said "cut the passive aggressive cr@p Mystic. I don't play games." (we did work together for 10 years)
Sig. The image I have in my head is that somehow we are offered as a sacrifice in therapy. Is that what you meant???? I suspect all this is saying far more about me than you.
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