Posted by Sigismund on January 7, 2010, at 15:53:37
In reply to Re: framework for trauma / grief? » floatingbridge, posted by Daisym on January 7, 2010, at 0:40:39
>Existential struggles happen often when we witness what appears to be senseless suffering. For myself, when people tell me, "everything happens for a reason" I want to demand they find the reason in csa. I usually hold my tongue, because what I know to be true is that people sometimes need to hold this belief in order to cope. I find my faith to be incredibly important as a coping mechanism - though I rage at God at times too. I don't think anyone can really adequately explain why bad things happen. Have you read "God's Shrink"? It is a piece of fiction that tries to answer this question.
I never know 'why' really, but sometimes I understand 'how'.
Sometimes I like Ezra Pound's line: 'A botched civilisation, gone in the teeth'.>The other major container, for me, is my therapist. We work hard to stay connected between sessions so that I feel held. We work with many of the self-psychology concepts and as we actively dismantled many of my defenses, he alloweded me "borrow" his core self as a way of shoring up mine. The container does spring leaks sometimes, but talking about what is going to work and having a plan in place, really does help.
It's funny with therapy. You know how you think 'this doesn't work', but after all these years and my therapist now dead, I feel her in me, as I should I guess.
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