Posted by pegasus on December 10, 2009, at 8:45:31
In reply to a letter to my therapist...., posted by deerock on December 9, 2009, at 17:19:06
Hi deerock,
When I read your letter, I wonder how you handled your feelings before you started with your T. It seems like you must already know how it goes without her, because that's what was happening before you started therapy, right? Was it workable?
I hear your pain in your attachment to your T. And I know from my own experience how painful that attachment can be. I also know that if you can stand the pain of it, the attachment can be a really powerful force for positive change. Without it, you might be able to manage better than you feel you are managing now, in the short term at least. But will you get the same long term healing that you would get if you stuck it out with your T through this?
Keep in mind that a lot of people believe therapy works through the strength of that attachment. We are so focused on our T that we end up eventually internalizing what they say to us, which can then help us get through life much more smoothly. So, after long enough (which varies from therapy to therapy) you *do* have your T with you all the time. Or at least, the parts that help you process things in a healthy way. Honestly, that is the way I feel now, after many years of therapy. I hope that you can get there too.
peg
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