Posted by Daisym on December 3, 2009, at 20:12:45
In reply to Ha Ha -- the joke is on me, posted by TherapyGirl on December 3, 2009, at 18:42:58
Ask yourself about the message you are trying to convey with plan A. There are better ways to send it and it is very possible that given the current state of things, she wouldn't really understand it anyway. Your family doesn't deserve this, even as much as you don't deserve to be left the way you are being left.
I think a quick break might have been kinder. This wound keeps getting opened up again and again. It can't heal under these circumstances.
So here is the harsh truth. You can't need her anymore for anything in the future. But you can still need and love her for all the past support and help. That counts - in a really big way. Hold her in your mind that way. Stop trying to carry her forward in any other way. It is hurting you too much to do that.
Someone wise said to me that letting go of someone is painful but it does make room for a someone else to bring new joy in to your life.
I wish this for you. So hold on, let all these painful feelings pass. It will get better. You will heal.
Hugs,
Daisy
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