Posted by elizabeth31 on October 12, 2009, at 22:48:48
In reply to Your opinion please!, posted by rnny on October 12, 2009, at 21:22:55
awww sorry to hear about your difficult situation and hope things go well with your new therapist-I was just going to say that my therapist does the exact same thing about walking down the hall like 5 paces ahead of me with no conversation and at first I thought it was so awkward and I would try to keep up with him and start to think he was being rude and assumed he was in a hurry and our session would start off on the wrong foot based on my incorrect assumptions of why he was doing this--I finally said something to him about this once, and he was totally surprised that it bothered me as he pointed out to me the reasons he does this is to protect my privacy. I never thought about it in that context but I realized how smart it was that he does this. The practice where he works has multiple other therapists and a range of different clients are there coming and going--I once was almost horrified to run into a colleague in the hall and realized how I guess depending on your circumstances for going to therapy, its definitely a privacy issue. I would definitely not want my therapist announcing my name even and talking loudly or softly to me in front of other people--small talk in the hallway is actually a disaster for therapists as just think of what someone could overhear and then distort and thats how rumors start and the risk of breaking the bond of trust established in therapy would probably be damaged.
Soooo, long story short, I would definitely ask her why she does this and see what she says...Im guessing its something similar in reasons to what my therapist said-but let me know as Id be interested to find out what she says! Ever since he pointed that out, I completely love having that time to walk down the hall not talking and I just keep my ipod on and it gives me a few more seconds to collect my thoughts before my session. Keep me updated on how things are going for you!
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