Posted by friesandcoke on July 18, 2009, at 21:11:19
In reply to Re: Therapist retired a year ago (Therapy girl) » friesandcoke, posted by TherapyGirl on July 18, 2009, at 20:53:30
Oh wow, sounds familiar. When i found out my t was retiring and so forth i wanted to stop therapy right there and then. she suggested we stay in it together up until the end. and we did. the sessions at the end were not good though. she was very preoccupied with retiring. unless you have a darn good reason or reasons not to see her, i would say see her as often as you can. the fact her husband died does play a role as to how available she is to you during sessions. the therapist my "old" therapist referred me to was going through the same family crisis the whole year i was with her. it was to the point she was talking about it during session and i had to tell her i wasn't interested. outside traumas for a therapist do play a role in what happens in session but some are able to contain themselves and offer up an actual therapy session. something my "replacement therapist" was not able to do in my opinion. a lousy therapy session is a waste of time and then they are more and more frequent..well you get the point. you can terminate therapy with your therapist any time you want, even if she is retiring in Dec. i am not suggesting you do so, just noting that. i am on the fence. i want a therapist but i am feeling good getting by without one. but there are things i used to talk to my old T about and not having anyone to confide in is not good. have you and your T been doing alot of talking about the fact she is retiring? or has the loss of her husband really effected her ability in the sessions?
> Right now what we're doing is not meeting. I may go next week -- haven't decided for sure yet. We can't seem to agree on what I need to get through this time. My T lost her husband last fall, which I think is making it harder for her to deal with this effectively.
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> And it's just hard, as I know you know. I'm sorry as I can be that you have had to go through it, too.
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