Posted by yellowbird01 on May 10, 2009, at 17:06:10
In reply to Re: Mother's Day » yellowbird01, posted by Dinah on May 9, 2009, at 8:50:58
Well, I decided to opt for being the world's worst daughter and did nothing. Didnt send a card or anything. I know that it doesnt make me a bad person, but I sure feel guilty about it. At the same time, I'm okay with my decision. I meant to talk with my T about the upcoming mother's day last week and forgot... I guess I'll talk to her about it this week instead.
I would like a closer relationship with my mother. However, I dont think she wants it OR is capable of it... or both. I dont know. I am very confident that even if I tried, a close relationship likely wouldnt ever be possible. I think I've accepted a lot of things about my parents, but I do still have some anger towards them, and that it what makes me refuse to make any effort, even sending a card on mother's day.
Dinah, I think what you described about yourself and your relationship with your mother is the place I hope to get to one day. As you said, my mother was also a pretty good mother (best i can remember) when I was younger. Once I became an preteen/teen is when everything changed. I recognize that is represents her issues more than anything else, and accept that she truly may be unable to be any more than she was, but my emotional self hasnt quite caught up with that understanding.
Happy mother day to all the mothers posting here! :)
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