Posted by Dinah on May 9, 2009, at 8:50:58
In reply to Mother's Day, posted by yellowbird01 on May 8, 2009, at 18:12:13
It's hard for me to balance the fact that I owe my mother a lot, and she was a fabulous mother for me when I was young. My mother really likes young children, less so when they turn ten or so. It balanced out ok, because my father had no idea what to do with very young children, but enjoyed talking to me once I got old enough to have intelligent conversations. Still, she was great when I was little. I put my son in her care as an infant/toddler without a qualm.
But as I got older... Well, it's not entirely her fault. She's not all that mentally healthy. She was supportive of me and my interests as I got older, even if she had more than one motivation to be supportive.
Even trying to keep all that in mind, no way am I going to get her a mushy card. I take my time and look around and can generally find a card that doesn't say anything I don't wish to say.
Once I became a mom myself, we worked out an arrangement. I take her out to dinner, but *my* mother's day gift is that we do it on any other day but mother's day. Restaurants are a horrible place on Mother's Day.
I sorta wish they didn't have it. My family treats me well all year round. I see no reason to make an issue of it on one day.
When I was little, I campaigned for, and got, kid's day celebrated in our family. My father said that every day was kids day, but I pointed out how hard kids really work at being helpful to their parents and productive at school. It didn't last long, and it was tied to the school year somehow. A small present, an appreciation for a job well done...
poster:Dinah
thread:894800
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