Posted by Dinah on April 28, 2009, at 13:37:46
In reply to Re: Feeling melancholy, posted by Dinah on April 28, 2009, at 8:32:55
When my therapist is at his best he's so darn good. And he *really* knows how to take a hint. :) I love it when I'm able to identify what I need from him and he's able to pick up on his cue.
He swears that there's nothing *wrong* with me, and I believe that, since he also acknowledges that there are things about me that people find hard to connect to. He says I'm the only one I have any control over, and I'm the one he has in his office. We were kind of breaking those things down into the things I really can't change, the things I might be able to change, and the things I shouldn't even consider changing.
And he very warmly pointed out a few ways that my thinking is a bit distorted on the topic.
He really is great. He really is. It couldn't have been any more comfortable for him to say those things than it was for me to say them or hear them.
And at the end of the session, he gave me, at my request, a big hug and held it until I pulled away. I needed to feel like he really felt ok about me, and I think he understood that the tangible proof was important to me at that moment.
I've got a killer headache again. Maybe I could use a boring session or two before tackling this again.
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