Posted by desolationrower on April 25, 2009, at 1:52:15
she said she can bring over current clients, but maybe its a good time to think about if i want to continue. i'm not sure if shes trying to say i might do better with someone else? or maybe she just wants to focus on some different issues - the place she'll be working does eating disorders, which i don't have. although other than that, i had orginially thought her interests looked like what i needed, and i don't feel all that far from 'eating disorders' - i think they are very much about trying to change yourself so others like you, and i think i do quite a lot of self-focused behavioral checking because i'm very aware of what type of behaviours people like and which they don't.
so i'm not sure if maybe i should try a new therapist? i sort of hate asking her more directly, she's not that experienced (although i wanted someone about my age, as the transference in the previous tpist was like talking to a parent, and that isn't the kind of relationship i have problems with), so i guess i feel like i don't want to talk about things because it might end with us deciding she's not helping me. i guess thats not really a good way to think of therapist-client relationship, but its probably not unusual for me, i don't really fear other's disapprobation so much as i fear creeping others out or making them feel bad.
has anyone any advice or experience with this. its probably worht noting i don't have trouble forming a relationship or opening up at all. i have had one therapist i thought was a douchebag so i only saw him twice.
also i've often thought i'd be much more helped by a therapist or life coach or something who instead of going to an office, we went to a coffee shop or bar and he or she just did real-life kind of socializing where we'd talk a bit and then they'd help me start conversations with people. do any therapists do something like that? since exposure didn't really work and was very unpleasant i've quit doing it and probably can't even force myself to anymore.
-d/r
poster:desolationrower
thread:892684
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20090421/msgs/892684.html