Posted by fleeting flutterby on April 13, 2009, at 9:44:57
In reply to Re: What is your T. to you??flutterby, posted by rskontos on April 10, 2009, at 20:06:07
> Hey Flutterby,
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> My t is my t. Well, he is also my p-doc but he wants me to see him as the father/mother i never really had. But it is hard.<<----flutterby: Yes, I understand it being hard. The psychologist I had seen told me that I COULD regard him as a father figure. like, he was giving me an idea and permission at the same time. I guess I eventually thought of him as a father figure-- but-- to me a father(from what I knew in my child's mind) is someone distant, someone that works 6 days a week then goes and gambles at night and never gets involved in your life.... so maybe that's why I became more and more distant with that psychologist...*shrugs*... maybe....
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> I am getting closer to trusting him more than even my husband. Because my DH has his own issues in life and my therapist is there just for me when we are in session.<<----flutterby: It's nice you can have someone just for you. that can be a safe feeling I s'pose.
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> Now I have a tendency to compartmentalize people, and events, so when I am not at his office I don't always think about him. But this is part of my issue too so it is not a good thing according to him.<<---flutterby: You do that too? I struggle to keep a connection with anyone if they aren't present. Just recently I thought to myself-- "sheesh flutterby, it's like those wee little ones that when you put a cloth over the toy, they internalize that the toy is gone... since they can't see it-- that's just what you do with people!"
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> Anyway, he is my t and he is there for me. That is nice. Therapy is still hard though. Attachments are an issue for me anyway, so I don't work too hard at letting t in yet. But I am doing some better in that respect at least according to him.<<----flutterby: That's wonderful. I wish you continued progress. :o)
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> He listens to me better than anyone else in life. so that is nice. He also has a high opinion of me which is nice.<<---flutterby: Yes, that is nice isn't it-- to have someone truly listen. It sure does help too if one feels their T. has high regard for them-- it's great yours does towards you.
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> rsk
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---flutterby: Thank you for sharing... it helps for me to get other's views, insights and feelings.
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