Posted by fleeting flutterby on April 9, 2009, at 15:50:43
In reply to Re: What is your T. to you?? » fleeting flutterby, posted by onceupon on April 9, 2009, at 14:45:02
> ... I should add that it's taken me almost 2 years of therapy with her to get to the point where I'm able to swallow the anxiety enough (with her help) to have these discussions. And I started by sending her several long emails about the topic before I could bring it up face-to-face. I went in to so many sessions determined to talk about it, but just froze. The emails were a nice way to work with that, but I still twist with anxiety when discussing it.<<
---flutterby:-- no matter the length of time to do it-- you did it and that is awesome! :o) I don't have the therapist's email addy..... I've thought that it would be nice-- but.... for me anyway, I think that's how I distanced myself from the psychologist I used to see.... I would email him and then gradually I quit going in person. feels like I took advantage of his kindness in that area... here he was willing to read my emails and reply back.... and then.... the "grumblers" took hold and I quit going to sessions. :o(
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> I've started to ask my therapist for a lot of reassurance around these discussions, too. Just last week I asked her if it really is okay to talk about this - it feels so taboo somehow. She patiently reassured me that she is perfectly fine with it, and that it's important that I'm okay with it too.<<---flutterby: sounds like you have a very nice therapist. :o)
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> I know others have written on this board that most therapists should have training in discussing the therapeutic relationship - but there are also some who emphasize it less (e.g., cognitive behavioral therapists).<<---flutterby: Oh, I've not thought to consider their background... hmmmmm.... again-- something to think about, thank you.
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> If you do decide to bring it up with your therapist, I wish you courage! Know that you're definitely not alone in these struggles.<<---flutterby: Thank you! I will try and keep that in mind--- I'm not alone, I'm not alone.
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> BTW, I love your description of the "grumblers" - it sounds like you're getting ready to kick them to the curb - or at least the parts of them that are standing in your way.<<----flutterby: Thanks! I am hoping to, if not "kick" some grumblers to the curb... at least push them really hard in that direction....
it takes much energy, self awareness and confidence to overpower them-- I'm certainly trying!
They've ruined so much of my life.... :o(thanks again-- twas great of you to reply!
flutterby-mandy
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