Posted by Dinah on April 6, 2009, at 22:46:48
In reply to Re: my therapist ruined my session » seldomseen, posted by raisinb on April 6, 2009, at 22:02:32
This seems totally out of character for her to have said, from all you've said about her.
When someone does something that out of character, I generally do wonder if some miscommunication of some sort has occurred. I doubt she wanted you to leave. She was probably just trying to figure out what she could say.
As ss suggested, could she have been trying (with poor success) to point out that the experience is necessarily different on the other side of the couch? My therapist has also pointed out that the feelings even the fondest of therapists has is different than the feelings a client has. As he says, he is an integral part of my support system. I am not an integral part of his. I can't be. If he felt for me as I feel for him, he couldn't function as a therapist to me.
Maybe she does have some pattern of screwing things up after an emotional session. But I doubt she meant what she said in any but a benign sense, based on what you've told me.
By the way, my brain cell count dropped quite a bit after my son was born. Goodness knows what happened half the time between my brain and my mouth, but I'm reasonably sure that what came out of my lips wasn't at all what started from my brain any number of times.
I know it's hard, but maybe try to find out what she intended to say?
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