Posted by DAisym on March 28, 2009, at 23:34:40
In reply to Daisym, posted by LadyBug on March 28, 2009, at 12:07:19
I think there is a distinct psychology to living alone. It takes some getting use to but I think it can be good for folks like us who've spent a lot of time taking care of others.
And less stuff is also kind of a psychological lesson. You figure out how much you don't need. And/or making new and different choices to create a space that is YOURS is truly amazing. I haven't had my own room and bathroom for 25 years - but I love it and can't imagine sharing again. Maybe unloading some of the baggage literally allows us to unload it figuratively.
However, creating this really safe, personal space has resulting in a bit of a dilemma. I've started seeing someone and he came to visit me. I just couldn't tolerate sharing my room with him - so he was in the guest room - and I'd "visit" him there, if you know what I mean.
I say, go slow and find things for your new space that you really love. Keep asking yourself that, no matter what is on sale or how long it takes. If you don't love it, you don't need it.
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