Posted by seldomseen on March 18, 2009, at 7:34:42
In reply to What happened yesterday in session? *triggery*, posted by backseatdriver on March 17, 2009, at 10:47:06
Our situations sound very similar (if not eerily similar, right down to a make psychiatrist/therapist) and my mother is mentally ill as well.
When I begin to talk about sex, my therapist snaps to attention and focuses like a bloodhound on the heels of a rabbit. At first it *was* very disturbing, I thought he was a sex maniac or something and I had a very similar dissociative feeling that you had. He certainly seemed very lascivious.
But after we talked about it (well, after I accused him of being a sex maniac to be more accurate), I learned the way patients approach sex is very probitive (as in diagnostic, telling) about our current psyche and the way we translate our past experiences. So my therapist was very interested in learning about my sexual self in order to learn more about me.
His interest is rather innocuous. Now we even joke about it.
I do wonder, however, if our reactions to their interest are based in fear of their response. They aren't supposed to really care you know? But my therapist's reaction certainly suggested otherwise. It made me wonder what he would *do* rather than say. It was scary stuff.I talked to my T and heard his point of view. I then worked with him to control my reaction to his reaction. Letting him know where I was during the entire discussion and subsequent ones.
Regarding his comment that 14 is too young to have sex, even with someone your own age, he is likely approaching this from a different perspective than you are and I agree, he was likely being protective given your background.
I can't speak as to whether or not sexual development occurs without dissociation and discord. I've been working with my T to develop an inner sense of what is right and "proper" in that regard and what isn't. It's hard to be "normal" when all sense of normalcy was abandoned when we were little.
I would definately talk to my T about all this, and then talk some more, and when you are done with that, talk even more. I think it will help to settle a lot of the upset that you are dealing with.
Peace to you
Seldom.
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