Posted by raisinb on March 17, 2009, at 16:25:48
In reply to What happened yesterday in session? *triggery*, posted by backseatdriver on March 17, 2009, at 10:47:06
Whew, this is a tough issue. I would have felt judged with the "too young" comment. I lost my virginity at 16, but I absolutely felt sexual desire before that. (I remember teaching myself to masturbate at age 12--with my mom's 1970s copy of Our Bodies, Ourselves--it had instructions! Hooray for first-generation feminists who keep books around :))
It was a dumb thing to say on his part, I think. What matters is what the experience meant to you. How did it feel? Sexual experiences can be incredibly positive as well as negative. Learning about your body and sexuality is a deeply personal revelation (or should be, in an ideal world). Like any important revelation, I think, it doesn't operate on a timeline.
I'd talk about his comment and reaction first, and discuss your fears about approaching the topic. Hopefully, he can reassure you, or respond well enough, so that talking about it is not as traumatic.
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