Posted by raisinb on March 16, 2009, at 9:04:57
In reply to Re: so finally, I am *furious* » raisinb, posted by DAisym on March 15, 2009, at 19:36:48
I don't know. When I'm angry, I get very logical. I think about the fact that she did not call, and I think, "those are not the actions of someone who cares about someone else." It seems like simple reality right now. If she wanted to maintain contact (even a 30-second voice mail), she certainly could have found the time. The fact is, she just didn't want to badly enough.
I know these are thoughts born of anger. However, there is a certain satisfaction to facing what seems like reality right now.
We'll see if she can take it. She's had problems doing so in the past sometimes.
Thank you for the support, Daisy. You always make so much sense.
> Often anger shows up when it is safe to *be* angry. Like when a lost child is found, parents struggle between wanting to hug him or shake him. Up until that point, it is not OK to feel the anger, due to the "what ifs."
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> I'm sure that the rational part of you knows that your therapist did not want to suddenly exit and drop all contact - circumstances were beyond her control. But there is a young part of you asking, "what then can I count on,if not my therapist?" I don't trust the Universe and likely won't ever.
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> I think it is Ok to express your anger and get it out. And then the hurt and the missing her. It is important to let it out in order to heal it. She'll be able to take it.
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> I hope the next few weeks go quickly.
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