Posted by lucie lu on March 9, 2009, at 12:38:00
In reply to Re: Differences between male and female Ts, posted by backseatdriver on March 9, 2009, at 12:15:40
> Hey Antigua --
>
> I am a woman. I used to have a female T. She had a very empathic approach, a wonderful "good mother" style. Even so, I was afraid of her. I had a hard time trusting her niceness. Partly I have trouble trusting in general. Partly, I fear angry women more than angry men. This is a very shameful disclosure for me; I am aware of the sexism in it. Working on it.
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> Right now have a male T. When I am more enlightened I will switch to a woman. For now, I just can't get comfortable.BSD, if you switch female T to male T, then you've just described me. I have developed a good amount of trust in my T but it remains a work in progress. What I trust is that he doesn't *want* to hurt me. What I don't trust is whether he *will* end up hurting me despite his wish not to.
My issues are far more with men than women. I don't consider this sexism nor should it be shameful. These generalized responses stem from very specific interactions with very specific people from the past. I'm not sure I would describe such a gender-specific response as a value judgment, they way I would sexism. Just my 2 cents.
Lucie
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