Posted by Dinah on March 8, 2009, at 22:20:41
In reply to Differences between male and female Ts, posted by antigua3 on March 8, 2009, at 10:53:32
It could just be my transference at work. But I see my therapist as having many excellent qualities that are associated with "feminine". Don't tell him that though. He's upset enough when I refer to his milky breasts although he seems comfortable enough with therapist/mommy. He can be very warm and nurturing. T3 was female and she was waaay less warm and nurturing, IMO.
Still, there's only so much warm and nurturing I can take. So my perception is probably that he's warmer and more nurturing than others may see him.
I always joke that I prefer women doctors and male therapists, because I prefer somewhere mid-spectrum. Some women therapist seem a bit sweet and squishy for my tastes. But others definitely are not. I don't think of myself as particularly feminine. But my therapist thinks one reason I might not get along well with female therapists long term, is that they may be more impatient with my childlike qualities. Which may be true, based on my experience.
But in the end it comes down to individual fit. Of the all the therapists I've been associated with in one way or another, I've liked exactly two. My therapist is male, the other one was female. Some are too hard, some are too soft, and very very few are just right.
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