Posted by Garnet71 on March 8, 2009, at 14:12:33
In reply to Differences between male and female Ts, posted by antigua3 on March 8, 2009, at 10:53:32
My male T was just as sensitive as my female Ts..except one of my female Ts was about 'doing' similar to what you said. She was harsh about some things, but a cognitive based therapist. My PDoc made me go see her as opposed to the gentler T I saw a few times because he said I was "too strong" (whatever that meant), and I needed the new one to "kick me in the *ss". No joke. But I sensed she was judging me sometimes, so I wouldn't go back to her.
I think the differences may be attributed to cognitive-based therapy vs. psychotherapy. I never did like cognitive based therapy; the solutions all seem to be common sense. If I had the motivation or discipline to change certain aspects directed by CBT, I wouldn't need therapy in the first place. I guess it works for many, but don't know why it doesn't work for me--except that I have to *know* all the whys, which are answered by psychotherapy. I have to have a deep understanding of my individual motivations. I personaly think the steps of first acknowledging, then knowing, followed by understanding (then practice) are the precursors to change and healing...and that denial is the ultimate self defeator. CBT diverts--but does it heal the inner conflict?
I would guess their background or upbringing does affect they dynamics of therapy. I mean, if someone is sexist, though seemingly hidden, how could that aspect not effect the therapy dynamics?
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