Posted by DAisym on March 6, 2009, at 20:33:23
In reply to Re: OMG Meltdown in session, posted by lucie lu on March 6, 2009, at 7:59:18
Is it possible that as you work on these issues with your husband that your therapist is getting some of the anger that still isn't safe to express in couples therapy? And/or, he isn't in the therapy room to keep you safe from all the hurt that comes up in those sessions so you feel abandoned by him? Of course none of this is being done or felt at a conscience level - it just might be really old feelings of no one being there for you. I could be all wet, but it was the first thing I thought of as you put these things together.
We've long had a joke around here that Babble is actually therapy for therapy. I've only had one consultation around something that happened in therapy so I don't really know what you are working on. But I think we all have to guard against trying to get someone else to tell us how to manage our feelings for our therapists, without diluting them so that they aren't coming into the session. Trust is a really fragile thing, even after all these years. How do you think he will feel if/when you tell him you are getting consultation? I imagine he'll be sad that the trust has deteriorated that much.
I hope you had a good session today.
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