Posted by DAisym on December 29, 2008, at 14:44:19
In reply to Letting go of family and home, posted by Partlycloudy on December 29, 2008, at 11:08:49
Such wise words and so painful. You aren't just letting go of what is but of what you always wanted it to be.
The good thing is that you have the opportunity to create HOME for yourself with your husband. You have a loving partner who wants you to feel safe and nurtured. I found that when I created my own room two years ago, I gave myself a great gift. I didn't even know I needed it but I now guard my sanctuary selfishly.
I think one of the reasons I haven't told my mom about what happened to me is that I fear she'll give me the same response your mom did - "don't know what I would have done for you." I think I need to hang on to the fantasy of her leaping to my rescue, at least a little while longer. (Not to mention of the fear of her disbelief, but that is another thread.)
I'm glad you are so connected to your therapist and able to see her frequently. I'm sure it helps to have her hold you.
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