Posted by muffled on December 18, 2008, at 21:08:21
In reply to omg, i exploded...**Trigger**, posted by B2chica on December 18, 2008, at 15:57:58
B2, its really hard with sessions and sharing and stuff.
Its really hard to feel the intensity of the others.
Its really hard jsut that they even THERE.
Its hard when you got 2 track(or more) thinking.
Its just hard.
BUT its not like this all the time. You need to remember that. The kid needs to know that too, that she has to take turns or it just gets noisy and then nobody gets heard. If she waits her turn, she will be heard.
Can you make a nice place where she might be willing to go to when its someone elses turn? Maybe you and her could make a picture of it, and you could lv it at T and she can see it when its time for her to go play elsewhere.
Its also hard when we have no time to kinda process after session. I really hate that.
I ahope you can get some time to sit down and figger out whats comming from where. I dunno why, but I find it really helps quieten my head when I figger out who is expressing what, and possibly why. It seems like once they know they have been heard it helps. Its not so easy to figger out though lotsa times.
Will your T take email? That has been useful to me in a number of ways. But there needs to be clear rules and expectations around it.
Its stressful with all this family stuff for sure. Try and get out of what you can. If your feeling real bad, just leave, you just say your sick. I done that before. One year O just holed up in a room and wouldn't come out. Everybody was mad at me, but I couldn't explain. Thats why its best to just say you have a migrain or sick or something cuz THAT people seem to understand.
I have in the past allowed my little one to listen to T's message, T would send one on VM. Sometimes they were not so good. Sometimes they were perfect! Then we would listen many many many times.
Anyhow, glad you got a good T.
Take good care,
M
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