Posted by B2chica on December 18, 2008, at 9:24:21
In reply to Re: Is therapy just blowing smoke up our a*s? » Looney Tunes, posted by rskontos on December 18, 2008, at 8:54:31
i guess i'm just more self-centered than most.
i like the example cecilia brought up about the mother and daughter...i've thought of this EXACT issue only with my own 'mother'. what if she went to my T (she'd NEVER go to therapy btw) and my T started to feel sorry for her and what a TERRIBLE daughter she had. (meaning me).but i guess what i realize is that this therapy is for me...about me. the one hour a week the world stops and for once it's NOT about everyone else. its about me, my needs, my emotions, my worries.
it's a good working relationship. She isn't fake and is Very intelligent. so i look at it as not a personal relationship. meaning, i don't care if she likes me as long as she's GOOD at what she does and helps me. Now of course i care what she thinks of me, but i don't revolve around it.but i'm also not a 'female' person. i've Never had good relationships with women. in fact the only reason i have a female T is because my last T (whom i LOVED) strongly suggested that my next T be female so to help me with these exact issues. and i trusted him. good thing too.
cuz now i have the best T.also, my thearpy isnt about going there to feel better, quite frankly i usually feel a bit worse when i leave, but in the big picture i'm doing MUCH better. so i may loose some battles but i think i'm winning the war!
dont know if this all makes sense or not.
but just wanted you to know that there are all kinds of T's out there. and yes i do think there are a few that "blow smoke up..." but those are the ones with little to no real skills. and to that i say find another one.Best wishes
b2c.
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