Posted by Nadezda on December 7, 2008, at 17:17:44
In reply to Re: the way he jokes... » llurpsienoodle, posted by Sigismund on December 7, 2008, at 16:25:55
Me, too.
Maybe that's why I find it hard to be discriminating about whether he should make them.
On one hand, sometimes it's just being silly, which can be good-- and not a diversion-- if there's been a lot of intensity and work for a while. Sometimes I at least need to feel a little lightness.
I can't imagine my T making those jokes. But it isn't his type of joke-- and he isn't much of a joker, even when we're getting along well. So maybe my lack of being disapproving is misplaced. I'm sure I would be taken aback by the jokes from him-- although not with everyone, I don't think. My T simply isn't given to that type of impulsivity (although he certainly given to others).
I don't know. Maybe I'm too willing to go along with the impulse of the moment myself. I've never been an achiever-type of person (very unfortunately) and I have that underachiever temperament-- of kind of wandering (or wavering, my first word) along the byways, rather than keeping to the difficult, but upward (or whichever-ward) path. So I really admire the tenacity of those who say, this isn't the work, this isn't a delving into the question, so don't distract us, please.
Of course, I also wasn't there. It could be that there's a lot more going on-- or a lot less going on-- at those moments than meets the eye.
Nadezda
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