Posted by Dinah on December 7, 2008, at 16:15:12
In reply to poster's remorse, posted by turtle on December 7, 2008, at 14:48:14
I do review and edit my posts most times. And sometimes end up chucking the whole post anyway. I don't think I worry so much anymore about posting in anger. I have gotten better about walking away and taking some time to gain perspective. I do sometimes think about what I've written and come back to correct the impression I've given, even if maybe it wasn't necessary. I'm not OCD for nothing.
I really do like this particular board. Because people generally do mean well, and people generally do post generously. I feel totally comfortable assuming that if something doesn't sound supportive, I've likely read it wrong. And at the very least I should give others the benefit of the doubt. Even when something flares up, others generally respond with support and caring and a lack of defensiveness that really does give me an excellent example to aspire to.
But posters regret....
Well, I tend to overdisclose. Sometimes I feel a lot of shame over what I've written. Perhaps because it's something personal to me and that I don't really feel good about, perhaps because I'm afraid I'll get in trouble somehow, or perhaps because I feel guilty for saying too much about my therapist or mother or someone other than myself. Something that might cast them in an unfairly negative light. I worry whether I've been as scrupulously fair as I ought to be, and of course I know I haven't been.
I rarely have reason to regret my reckless vulnerability here. I can't begin to express how much I appreciate Psychology Board babblers for that. But perhaps a bit of poster's regret isn't an entirely bad thing. If not to protect myself then at least to protect the people in my life, who are filtered through my own lenses, and probably don't deserve for me to be totally candid in what crosses my mind sometimes.
poster:Dinah
thread:867274
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20081205/msgs/867301.html