Posted by llurpsienoodle on December 7, 2008, at 15:58:39
In reply to little verbal abuse trigger, posted by obsidian on December 7, 2008, at 15:25:36
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button is a tricky one. I am too often impulsive, and say the first supportive, or at least relevant, thing that comes to mind. I'm in awe of posters who are so thoughtful and philosophical about their posts. Sometimes I find myself vacillating (vaseline anyone?) and changing things here and there. I will usually check my emotions when I push that button. If I feel really petulant, or cunning, I will generally scan things about a hundred times to make sure I'm not crossing the civility line. If I'm feeling kind of unsure, I will read my post again, try to figure out if it's supportive, and post it anyways. A lot of times, I am fairly confident that I don't add anything substantial to the discussion, but I still want to be a part of it. Does THAT make any sense?
There are certain times when I sense that what I write will be scrutinized. I try to engage in this scrutiny, by giving readers something worth scrutinizing.
In general, I am immensely grateful when folks respond to my thread. Yes, I understand that everyone comes to this board with their own experiences, opinions, biases, struggles. That's what makes it a wonderful place. There are many forms of support here. Sometimes a poster will gently suggest that I'm not seeing the whole picture. gulp. often they are right. Sometimes a suggestion will force me to stretch my mind open a little further. That's cool. And often I find that others are able to make much more sense out of my life than I have been able to, perhaps by stringing a necklace out of all the beads that lay scattered on the floor of my recollection.
What I hate to see though is intolerance. In general, this board is rarely the scene of a PBC. I think it is necessary for us to be able to disagree, however. Having an open mind is essential for growth.
Regarding "support". I do not regard support as being some form of unconditional coddling regardless of our fears that a poster is headed down a path of (self?) destruction. I refuse to be along for that kind of ride. Again, the open mind can be used to hear another poster yelling "veer left!!" despite the raging storm.
Yeah, I guess I'll stop for now.
Interesting topic for a thread.
-Ll
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