Posted by workinprogress on November 25, 2008, at 21:26:43
In reply to I'd like to get to know the Babble therapists, posted by Dinah on November 24, 2008, at 20:29:20
I've been recently trying to participate more in Babble, rather than just reading. This post intrigues and intimidates me. When I think of what I'd write and read what you've all written, I realize I don't know her well enough to describe her at all.. in any "real" sense. But, I finally decided that I do know what she is to *me* and that's what matters.
So. My T. She's 45 and funky funky funky. She's hip and cool and totally has her own style.
******* this post was interrupted by a call from T- she called to check in on some relationship troubles I alluded to in a call to her today******
She wears lots of funky boots and mostly black and sometimes, especially early on, I thought- what is she wearing? But it's a special, unique style. It's a style that belies what a quintessential loving MOM she is. And that's who she is to me. She's nurturing, loving, deeply feeling, practical, wise, accepting, and empathetic. She loves me because I'm me. She is at times forgetful, but always remembers the important stuff. She loves coffee, but has stopped drinking it- except when she asks for a sip of mine. She is outside the box. She keeps the most important boundaries in tact, but will tell me she loves me, hugs me every time I see her, holds my hands, looks into my eyes, responds to my emails, calls me back, listens to my calls every day (I had a hard time with out of sight doesn't mean out of mine, so I came up with calling her and leaving her a message every day- that's when my anxiety settled down, it's when I let her in, it's when I finally started to trust her). She notices me. She cares.... deeply. I AM one of her kids.
But, back to her. She's smart, she's political. She's opinionated. She's a lefty and an environmentalist. She's bold. I think she gets herself into trouble with her subversive side and her mouth. She's not "polite" certainly. She is so grounded and centered and self assured that I would be happy to be anywhere close.
I think I'm still too in love to find many real faults. She's often late, but she'll go over. She has done so much overtime for me- phone and email, that I would never complain. And she'll jump out of the box for me. We had a picnic to celebrate our one year anniversary. She's giving me a recipe for thanksgiving and making one of mine (since it's my favorite holiday I proposed it as a way of sharing).
Whatever I need... she's there. And I know she always will be... finally I know. But more than anything, she loves me. Best thing she ever said:
me: I love you T
her: Oh sweetpea, I love you too.
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