Posted by lucie lu on November 12, 2008, at 19:32:27
In reply to How long have you been with T AND......., posted by Looney Tunes on November 11, 2008, at 23:36:37
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> 1) How long did it take for you to be able to "really" talk with T?
> For example: Like say anything about your past? or anything that would be sensitive?I think the relationship deepened, which is what I think you are really asking, after two years.
We've been meeting for 6 years. The first two were once/week and I took 6 months off. When I came back I was frustratingly blocked. For months. I was just about to quit for good when something in me shifted and I asked to come twice a week. That changed everything.
> 2) How long did it take for you to stop being embarrassed? Is this the same as shame?Funny you should ask this. I am trying to work through a very sensitive area right now, to which a lot of embarrassment and shame is attached. We have had some sessions recently just focusing on how he can make me feel safe. I think that is helping but I'll know if I'm able to follow through with the goods very soon. I think embarrassment goes more easily than shame, which I think is harder to talk about. But really, it depends upon where your sore spots are, those are the ones that can be so very hard to talk about. Of course that makes them the things you need most to discuss.
> 3) How long did it take for you to realize T was not judging you or going to make you leave?
Not sure what you mean by making you leave? I trust that he will be there and stay there. I am worried about the judging part only now with this sensitive area. If he can really show me non-judgmental now, then I'll be a true believer.
> Thoughts?
I take it these are current issues for you now, LT? Good to hear from you, BTW.
Lucie
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