Posted by Dinah on November 11, 2008, at 21:33:57
In reply to Re: What is the Nicest Thing Your T Ever Said to You? » Dinah, posted by stellabystarlight on November 11, 2008, at 19:21:20
> We are imperfectly perfect. His flaws are what triggers many of my original wounds, and his strengths are what allows me to work through them.
I really like that description.
> I'm slowly learning to love and embrace all of him, including his flaws, and have faith that he will be there with me to repair the wounds until I'm ready to let him go.
I'm finding myself quite surprised to be in this position. Not the part about being ready to let him go of course. But unless his flaws threaten the continuity of the therapeutic relationship and as long as he's real and present, I find myself responding to his flaws with a maternal affection that surprises me. Since I generally see him as the mommy to my needy child.
> As I'm writing this I'm beginning to think that I've also been ruder about my therapist than he deserves.
Whether I think I've been *too* rude probably varies from session to session. But it does occur to me that I'm so utterly comfortable with his flaws that I must be giving others the completely wrong impression of him.
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