Posted by stellabystarlight on November 11, 2008, at 19:21:20
In reply to Re: What is the Nicest Thing Your T Ever Said to You? » stellabystarlight, posted by Dinah on November 11, 2008, at 17:25:30
> > I love that man...even if he drives me absolutely batty with all of his flaws. And they're mind-boggling flaws...
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> Boy, I seriously identify. Do you ever find yourself loving him, not despite his flaws, but including his flaws?
Hi Dinah,You mean, do I find myself loving him because he is a dopey numscull? Wait...that's redundant, and maybe slightly rude. He's been in the dog house for the last month for causing a rupture out of sheer selfishness. I'm too embarrassed and warn out to post about it actually, but he is working hard to repair it with me. And I'm not making it easy for him this time.
Funny you ask about "loving him, including his flaws"-I've been thinking a lot about which flaws are a part of what I love about him. Lately, I've been experiencing less of "being in love" and more of just loving him for the damaged person that I now see. But this is why we're a good therapy pair. We are imperfectly perfect. His flaws are what triggers many of my original wounds, and his strengths are what allows me to work through them. I'm slowly learning to love and embrace all of him, including his flaws, and have faith that he will be there with me to repair the wounds until I'm ready to let him go. It's not easy to love him and his flaws, but in the end his words and actions have shown me that he truly cares about me...even if it's a paid relationship. The paid part is so hard to accept...
As I'm writing this I'm beginning to think that I've also been ruder about my therapist than he deserves. Thanks for asking, Dinah. Now I feel bad about calling him a dopey numscull...
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