Posted by Trotter on November 11, 2008, at 19:26:23
In reply to To quit or fall in love with my therapist, posted by Trotter on November 11, 2008, at 14:10:36
Thanks so much for your thoughts. They pretty much reflected my concerns, both in the positive and negative.
I am worried about forming a close attachment and then having to deal with the eventual breakup. The fact that this is a big issue for some people is of concern. In my favor though, is that I am not one to get overly attached to people, unlike, say, someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder. I can be hurt by break-ups, but I am probably in a lower risk group. In fact I have always been the one to break off a romantic relationship. Maybe being on the receiving end might be a good thing.
On the other hand, I don't really see that I have major relationship issues, other than not bonding as closely as others. My relationships are not characterized by pathological transference (as far as I know). At least my therapist has not brought any to my attention. I am just very independent. It's not like I don't trust others, I just prefer to be self-sufficient. That is not to say I am not open, as you can probably tell from my posts.
I am really still in two minds, and have to make a decision before I see her tomorrow. Not having done long term therapy like this before it is hard to know if it is worthwhile. It's a big committment. My gut feeling is that I don't really need it, but maybe I do ...
Trotter
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