Posted by raisinb on November 7, 2008, at 10:09:51
In reply to Object Permanence -- Daisy and whoever else, posted by TherapyGirl on November 6, 2008, at 20:44:19
Hi TG--
I'm so sorry your therapist is moving so far away. With my own therapist going on maternity leave in a few months, this issue is a big one for me, too!She had her first child about 3 and a half years ago, only five or six months into the therapy. That--and any other, shorter separation--for most of our work has triggered a *lot* of anger on my part. Because I couldn't believe she cared when we were apart, I was enraged about the inconsistency of her caring.
I can tell we've made progress in this area because I feel very sad, as if a part of me is being ripped out, when I think about her leave, but I don't feel anger. I think this is because I'm growing to trust that she still cares (and because she tells me that she will miss me).
I don't know if our relationship will still exist for me in the way that it does now--for a six-week leave. That's a tall order, progress or no progress. And yours is much taller, but it sounds like your relationship with your therapist has more than enough strength to get you to that point.
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