Posted by Dinah on November 9, 2008, at 22:15:22
In reply to Re: Object Permanence -- Daisy and whoever else » Dinah, posted by TherapyGirl on November 9, 2008, at 21:37:00
> And yet the things I've gained from this weird relationship with her are still gains, right? I don't lose them because I lose her.
That's exactly what my therapist told me when we talked about his moving a few months ago. I told him that I could so lose every gain I ever gained from him, and I *would*. I'd make sure of *that*.
Not that I'm advocating that position of course. It really is self defeating of me.
I guess it's a bit different because it's a retirement. But...
Dang. If you ever need your anger at abandonment validated, come to me.
I think it's great that you're being so open with her about your anger. And in a more mature manner than I did, as well.
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