Posted by Partlycloudy on November 2, 2008, at 7:22:21
In reply to Re: Grieving my childhood and adulthood » Partlycloudy, posted by happyflower on November 1, 2008, at 17:12:04
> Do you ever just get angry that because of your childhood, things are so much harder now?I get angry at the people in my childhood - particularly my mother and my father, who simply weren't there for me. What I'm starting to see is the futility of that anger - it doesn't change what I experienced or give me back what I didn't get. What I am also starting to see is that I was able to get some of what I needed in affection and validation from other adult role models in my life, which has helped to lessen the anger a lot. I didn't think that being able to reframe in this way would make such a difference, but it is.
I do feel that at the moment, my T is giving me an enormous challenge (in reading and working my way through the book), and that I'm not always up to it. But I know that I'm able to do what right for me at this moment, and I'm becoming more comfortable with that being success on my own terms.
The women's support group is particularly valuable to me right now. It's a very small but powerful assembly. My T alternates heading the group with my old, original T, who retired from private practice, so there's a real sense of a circle being complete for me to be able to work with them both.
take care HF!
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