Posted by Partlycloudy on November 1, 2008, at 16:47:22
In reply to Grieving my childhood and adulthood, posted by happyflower on November 1, 2008, at 9:56:15
I hear you, Happyflower, about voicing your grief. I am only now and quite suddenly being forced to come to terms with the molestation that I suffered as an 11 year old child. I am struggling mightily.
I'm glad that your T has given you a tool in the form of that book to help you navigate your way through what must feel like a minefield at this moment. I've been given one of my own, one that another poster had mentioned not long ago, called "The Courage to Heal" - and I was so unprepared for the gift of this tool that I placed it, face down, on a book in my dining room, and then piled a bunch of stuff on top of it, for 3 weeks, until the most gentle of prodding from my T got me to finally unearth it and open it.
Whew. No horrible, nasty, things happened to me when I began to read. I'm trying to do some of the writing exercises that the book suggests I do as I go along.
I'm not quite at the stage of being able to grieve my lost childhood and what I've done to be able to cope with what happened to me. I've been spending a lot of the last week or so trying to stuff my monster back under the bed, but to no avail. Once that sucker was let loose, he ain't going back no way no how.
But I do think that we'll both be able to move relatively quickly through these next steps in the recovery process - you have been preparing yourself in your personal achievements for years now; and I have been doing my own inner work for some time.
I wish you peace in your soul, Happyflower, and joy for the person who survived against the odds.
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