Posted by JayMac on November 1, 2008, at 15:19:58
In reply to Re: Is this an example of a dual relationship? » JayMac, posted by lucie lu on October 31, 2008, at 22:55:13
Lucie, thank you! I've been quiet because I've been busy: midterms, work, and such. I always read the boards, I just don't always feel compelled to comment. Thanks for noticing though. I do tend to protect people, especially if I care about them. She and I have spoken about that and how I fantasize about doing it with her. She was really sick a couple weeks ago and I totally acted like a mother via email and calls. She saw it as an act of care, an act of love. But we both realize that I protect people from myself and others.
I completely agree that the boundary crossing is up to her to decide. I'm just not sure if she's aware of my point of view or not. I don't think it's necessarily crossing a boundary all the time. I don't call her up or email her to ask a question related to psychology/theory. I just think it's tricky because it can be interpreted as intellectulizing the relationship/therapy. She's done it, I've done it, we've agreed we both play a part.
I just want to connect with her on every level.Thank you.
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